Mary Laila Hoyt was born on March 23, 1919 on a farm at Green Road in New Brunswick, the second of four children of Gordon and Susie Hoyt. She had an older brother Ray, and two younger brothers, Clint and Robert. You won’t find Green Road on a map today, but it was near Debec, which is still around. The Hoyt farm was on the New Brunswick-Maine border. Mary’s family was accustomed to shopping in Houlton, Maine. They would drop off their purchases at their neighbour’s farm in Maine, walking across the fields in the evening when they got home to retrieve them. In later years, Mary recalled breaking the ice in the wash basin on cold winter mornings, heating the iron on the top of a wood stove and consuming lots of pure cream from the cows on the farm. She attended Normal School in Fredericton and started her teaching career in 1938, at the age of 19. She taught in Fredericton, Irish Settlement, Bull's Creek and Woodstock. Two of her students in the one-room schoolhouse at Irish Settlement were Clint and Robert.
Ray was the first to leave home. He moved to Ottawa in September 1939, and enlisted in the armed forces. A Pilot Officer in the R.C.A F., Ray was a casualty of World War II. His plane failed to return from a mission in Europe in January 1943.
Mary was next to leave New Brunswick, in May 1941. As a teacher in New Brunswick at the time, she was making $60/month. She wrote the Civil Service exam and got a job in the Auditor General’s office in Ottawa that paid $90/month. In Ottawa she met Bert Nesbitt, a young man from Richmond with a similar background. Mary and Bert were married at Green Road in September 1942. They moved to Smiths Falls in February 1943. Bert worked as an auditor with the Unemployment Insurance Commission. Mary worked in a bank for a few years, then started a family.
Clint left New Brunswick and moved to Smiths Falls in 1947. He spent most of his working life with Cockshutt, locally and in Brampton and Brantford.
In 1948, Mary’s parents and her youngest brother Robert also relocated to Smiths Falls. Gordon worked at Frost & Wood, then as a carpenter. Robert worked for the C.P.R. before relocating with the railroad to Toronto. Gordon died in January 1979, Susie in February 1984 and Clint in March 2011.
Mary and Bert had two daughters – Susan and Elizabeth, who both eventually graduated from Queen's University. Bert died of a heart attack in April 1964 at the young age of 48. Mary returned to teaching to support her young family. She taught at the Rideau Regional Centre, working with deaf, blind and delayed children until her retirement in 1984. She maintained an independent and active lifestyle for many years, only slightly slowed by two knee and two hip replacements. She was very active in the Westminster Presbyterian Church and was one of its first female elders. In 1999, she built a two-bedroom apartment, a “granny suite”, on her daughter Elizabeth’s home, two miles outside Smiths Falls. At an early stage of the discussions, she checked with her son-in-law to make sure it was OK with him.
She was much-loved by Susan and Elizabeth and by all her family, including grandchildren Mark (Karan) and Scott Naples and Kelly, Stephen (Kate), Meredith (Adam) and Bradley Phillips, great-grandchildren Benon and Aran Naples, and Emma, Aoife and Liam Condron and Claudia Phillips, sons-in-law Ron Naples and Doug Phillips, and by her young friend, Olivia Martin.
On Wednesday March 20, Mary baked some lemon-drop cookies and mentioned that she was feeling tired. During the night she suffered a profound stroke. She died on April 1, nine days after her birthday. In addition to Susan and Elizabeth and those already mentioned, Mary is survived by her brother Robert, sisters-in-law Norma Hoyt and Hilda Hoyt, nieces Martha Jane Hoyt and Lorna Stevenson, and grand-nieces Laura and Joanna Stevenson.
She lived an exemplary life.
She was 94 years old.
She was my mother-in-law.