Tonight I am giving a training to new or unlicensed therapists (we call them Marriage Family Therapist Interns in California) on how to work with couples. It is a two-hour training at my house.
My handouts are printed, I have lots of good info for them on assessment and treatment, techniques to build communication, manage anger and build intimacy with couples, and how to work with couples on the verge of divorce. We will also discuss how to "end well", if a couple decides to split up.
Here are the four things guaranteed to harm a marriage:
contempt and lack of respect
defensiveness and blaming
Ignoring issues by avoiding them
There are "solutions" to all of these!
The big question is what will I bake to serve for dessert?